Are You Thinking What I’m Thinking
It never fails! When I have had a child entering kindergarten, I am scrambling at the last minute to complete something on the list for registration. So, yesterday, Cooper and I landed in Dr. Fesmire’s office. While we were waiting, I found myself in a predicament (an embarrassing blue mouth from a lollipop). In our own minds, Coop and I were discovering ways to solve the blue-tooth problem before I had to talk to the doctor. Then, the 6-year-old looked across the room with his handsome face and a sly smile and said, “Are you thinking what I’m thinking?”
If you remember, from the start of the summer, I have a been on a quest to “learn my kids.” My biggest frustration as a parent is that I’m pretty sure I’m never even close to thinking what they’re thinking. I cannot stop laughing inside at his question!
I have found myself in knots a couple of times over the fact that I can’t connect with my children. I can’t seem to find what makes them tick or I can’t find the right words to communicate with them. And, what has continued to rise above those fears and inadequacies is the overarching theme of my need for a Savior. I, in and of myself, am not sufficient as a mother. I can’t know their hearts, needs and thoughts…
But God, who weaved their hearts and minds together can give the insight into them that I need, and he has when I’ve needed it.
Just an example: I have a child who has struggled with being corrected. She is very discouraged when corrected by us or others. A couple of weeks ago, her swim coach pulled her out of the pool and had her work on a stroke. She was upset, and we tried to explain how the coach was helping her improve. I racked my brain for a week trying to figure out why she was so bothered, and in praying, God revealed something to me that I shared with her.
The definition of criticism is the expression of disapproval of someone or something based on perceived faults or mistakes. The definition of correction is a change that rectifies an error or inaccuracy. We’ve all heard this about marriage, but it’s good to know for parenting, too — we hear words differently. My child has been hearing disapproval based on fault when she’s just being corrected. Hopefully, knowing these two words will rectify that for her.
But, this is my point — I’m not smart enough to figure this out about her! I need the One who created her to reveal these details to me. My quest this summer to know my kids really leads to someone far greater – the Savior! He, in turn, helps us to know our kids.
As for Coop’s idea? His plan was for me to wash my mouth out with soap and water. I’m sure Dr. Fesmire would have found that completely normal when he entered the room.